We started planning the wedding in faith because we both are believers and we committed it to God in prayer. When do I start having faith and be practical? Hi, im glad i found this, my marriage has been on da rocky side, hence probs i created based on actions i was getting from him so i reacted, im honestly nd sincerly regretful of da choices i made…now hes at da conclusion tht its best we get a devorce…i love my husband dearly nd dont agree…ive been praying nd hoping tht god wld just restore our marriage…but my faith hasnt been whr its supp 2 b…esp bcuz i havnt been seeing n e possitive changes…but ive decided 2 go at it with all my faith this time…i just want bk my husband nd a healthy pregnancy..
I am so glad I found this article. Next week I need to make a decision on whether or not to accept on offer for a Masters Degree overseas which starts in 8 months. I also need to rely on my current employer to transfer me over on a visa which they said they would support me on. My fear is what if my job falls through? How do I know? Ive prayed and fasted at length and it has been revealed to me through scripture, dreams, and impressions from the holy spirit that I am meant to marry a man who happens to be my 2nd cousin by relation. My mother has expressed to me many times that I would break her heart and bring shame to her name if I decide to proceed with this.
I can already feel the division growing between her and me. However, I still believe God is leading me to make this decision… No matter how seemingly odd or culturally shamed. What advice do you have for me? Sometimes we get so caught up in what we think God is telling us, we have blinders on because we want what we want. If you 2 are really meant to be together, then hold off until God unites the whole family on this. If you are really meant to be together there is no harm in waiting and in fact you will grow stronger, together, over time. Family are those you go cradle to grave with.
Take it from someone who is orphaned by family rejection, it is a hard way to live and lonely, lonely, lonely especially around the holidays. I would ask you to consider the some unintended consequences. Here are some suggestions to think about:. At least when I was with one side I could escape the other side. When we are young we think we know all we need to know but our parents have a lot of life experience that is worth considering. And I understand I pointed out a lot of negative here. I wonder if your family is all or mostly believers and this is the enemy trying to divide you all?
For me, when all else is confusing I go to scripture. You never go wrong following that. Honour your father and your mother so that you may live long in the land that Yahweh your God is giving you. Ex Even Jesus said that if we put him first, it may cause divisions with mothers and fathers and those close to us.
Help please with any thoughts or comments: I have worked for a well known Christian ministry speaker, pastor, tv, ecourses and have gone from a contract position to a more permanent position. In speaking with the CFO, we discussed FT employment, and because a large move would have to take place, I needed to know the salary.
Every conversation has ended in frustration because she refuses to give a wage, unless I agree to take the job. Even with my yes, I still cannot get a quote from her. Yesterday, on the phone, she asked me to email what I would like to be paid, job description, etc and they would discuss it. I know these owners personally, so I am really stuck on whether to move forward or get out. I like my job, I learn and grow, doing it with excellence, as PH did. Am I going to be used for growth and change?
Is it toxic and I need to stay out?
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Thanks to whoever can speak into this please. There should be a salary and all the benefits discussed prior to taking an offer. That old tip of the iceberg thing. I know you may be looking for some scripture here but I feel this is just a moment when you need to use the brains God gave you and as he instructed us all how to use them.
Matt I am part of a church leadership team. The congregation is looking and wanting change but are unsure what that change should be. As I was thinking on this passage, over a number of months I found other events around me started to confirm or add to the explanation via Christian friends, Sermons, Daily bible notes etc.
I truely believed God would speak to their hearts and that we would move forward. I am not one that wants fame or fortune, or believe that I am Gods gift and find it dificult to reconcile what I believe is Gods will for our Church that nothing has happened. It makes you question if it was not his will how did I get it so wrong in my understanding.
How did you come to terms with it? Do you know of any Scriptures that can shed any light. This is awfully vague so makes it hard to answer. Are you able to give more specifics and tell us what your vision for the church is? Not having a reply puts you in a position of doubt — not of Gods love and promises — a personal doubt that you can get it so wrong.
Not in the way you want it to say.
Yes, I can get it very wrong. When something God is doing is really of Him, he moves others too. The devil can come in forms that makes us think he is God. In the bible, when it comes to visions and prophecy, they are primarily about calling people away from the sin of idolatry, empty ritualism, committing injustice on the poor. Some were given visions about the end times. Isaiah had visions. You might try reading Isaiah 6 to see what Godly visions are like.
In closing, I suggest you go back to the drawing board of our Father and ask if it is really from Him and what He wants you to do about it. Ask Him to show you if it properly lines up with His character, His word and His ways. He always answers those questions. Truly test this vision against the Word. God does not make up new things so whatever this is, it has biblical support, if from Him. He is the same today, yesterday and tomorrow. If not biblically supported, then time to give it up.
The fact that others are not moved leads me to think this may be not of God or only about something to pray for. Is it being faithful or foolishness? Also, I heard a testimony from a lady that she waited on God for her finances and he provided so I thought to wait. When someone owes you money for work done, even a church, it is OK to make a polite and timely inquiry.
The sooner the better. Especially when it comes to pay. I would never, ever disrespect them this way. I have read so many articles about faith and trust I God and now I understand why most of the believers are struggling to get their breakthroughs and success: we are afraid to make the last decision in all that we do. Without a ministry and a pay cheque at this stage of my life is not something I would have chosen for myself, but here I am.
But I am learning lessons about waiting and trusting I never would have learned if life was predictable or routine. I would naturally been one who would play it safe, but God in His wisdom has seen fit to enforce a season of risk and trust on my wife and me. When he does, he finds that there had been a glass bridge there all the time. But I never want to miss out on the excitement of seeing God at work in a new venture.
Thank you for sharing. My husband and I find ourselves in such a similar situation. We are in our 50s facing a move to a new city from where we have lived our entire lives. My husband was wrongfully let go from his job of 34 years with no insurance or paycheck. For more than 7 years we have been struggling spiritually since the church we pastored closed. No place has felt like home since.
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Our desire has been to move to Central Florida but he had a very good job that payed well and why rock the boat? Risks… to leave where we have always been to a place that we know very little about, with very little money, especially at our age is so scary! But somehow I feel God pushing us on to new things…I have been interviewed twice for a very unusual position and I believe I will be offered this position in a matter of days but I as a wife have never been the main breadwinner and in a different place…faith or foolishness has definitely been lingering in my mind!
Thx Carey! This is a timely post as our growing church is seriously considering a move from the movie theaters to a permanent facility. I really appreciated the 2 questions you offered! I got my confirmation this morning, so thx!! Appreciate the tensions that this post calls us to live into. This is true of so much genuine faith—appreciate how Carey regularly avoids simplistic answers to complex questions!
Not sure where to start — but here goes. I have spent 40 years working in the corporate sector with an unblemished and decorated career portfolio. Near on 3 years ago I was appointed to an senior exec role looking to implement culture change. Unbeknownst to me the CEO who recruited me was the main contributor in perpetrating a divisive and toxic culture and who can only be described as a congenital liar and manipulator.
I know my craft and I knew what needed to be done. Setting aside the details of operational reforms I was confronted with a Caligula style of immoral office behaviours. Meaning, open office affairs extra-marital , slothenly behaviours, no accountabilty, no respect etc. Then can the dreaded Christmas office party. One of my own staff was seen cavorting with one of the GMs of the company.
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Not wanting to create a scene I asked another member of my staff to discreetly request this female staff member to desist bringing herself and my department into disrepute. As a professional exec and holder of deep scruples I was none too pleased. I avoided direct contact on the night because this staff member was clearly intoxicated. Instead I elected to contact her the following day Saturday to express my disappointment at her behaviour and advised her to meet with me on the Monday morning the event was on the previous Friday night.
I knew this but I stuck to me ethics — I was not going to allow my team to be subjected to rumours of affairs and the like. On the Monday morning the CEO ambushed me in my office stating this staff member of mine lodged a sexual harassment claim against me citing some 30 instances over a period of 6 weeks. I was completely gob-smacked. My faith and personal moral compass and beliefs have been smashed. I know the nature of the CEO. I was set-up. Lies perpetrated. No concrete proof lodged. Just allegations.
It is now 12 months since this rort has been done to me but I have engaged lawyers at great cost. BUT in God I trust. I have prayed every day, multiple times, hard, for God to deliver me and justice be served. I have wrestled with God and claimed a number of Psalmic promises He made. I am also wrestling with trust issues.
Society today it seems rewards cowardice and the not taking of self-accountabilty and responsibility. I will not resile from my firm conviction that a person is measured by their actions. I cannot do anything other than keep praying for a miracle. A supernatural miracle. This evil, which led to my dismissal and ruined my retirement, must be exposed but only God can do this. My enemies are too powerful. Has anyone been challenged to the point of losing faith?
How can I possibly expect victory when I am powerless? Does anyone or could anyone share any miracle events genuine please in dire situations. They were thrown into the furnace for refusing to worship the idol. They committed to honoring God and stayed faithful to Him even to say if they died they would remain faithful.
They sang praises to God and thanked him for the circumstances. And when they did, our Father delivered them unharmed from the furnace. Job was wiped out. Family killed and all possessions taken until he had nothing and was sitting on an ash heap. His wife told him to curse God and die. Job stayed faithful and God delivered him and restored him with more than he had. God is our defender. It is His reputation on the line, not yours. I have a room mate that went on a 4 month anger trip with me. My home was a war zone furnace and the only refuge I had was my bedroom.
I clung close to my Father, thanked Him and praised Him for the circumstances. I asked for wisdom and understanding and He gave it to me. I got busy with my life in keeping home and job together. I never thought there would be a good end. In fact I thought my room mate would move out and leave a broken friendship without so much as a glance back. But God turned this around by changing their attitude towards me. He showed this person what a blessing he had renting from me.
God let my room mate trip over every crazy rooming situation out there. Because of this, my room mate had to change his own opinions and admit he has it pretty good where he is. Now we now coexist in peace. I suggest you start asking God to defend you. Also ask God to give your attorney wisdom and for the lies to be brought into the open. The enemy will be dead, the kings in disarray and murdering one another, running for home with their tails between their legs.
I can tell you that when God brings the victory it is always so sweet and complete. One more thing, count on God answering when there will be the maximum impact for His glory. Be patient, wait, God does defend. Loret, Also from me thank you — I will read these words often in the upcoming months. But I also do not want to sound vain, I realize that in some difficult situations God is trying to refine me and make me a better Christian and admit that needs to be done also.
When in a difficult spot I always wonder if it is my fault or I need correction somehow. Thirty years in municipal government caused me to face similar circumstances on many occasions. Thankfully none of these frivolous complaints were sustained. Just hang in there a while longer. I have something better waiting for you at the end of this journey. Character keeps you there. I wish you and I had the opportunity to work together! Best wished to you going forward! I have a couple of radical, so buckle up things come to mind for me when I read your journey. The first is from a similar but different story I heard of — a gentleman who was African American and an executive of the highest caliber.
After years in various roles and moving up In the company, he was currently sitting at VP, and he thought the newly vacated President role would be his. This role went to another person. The VP felt the decision was a racial decision and hired a lawyer to defend him in the situation. He was not gaining much ground and was similarly frustrated that his name, knowledge, loyalty etc was being tarnished by this. He prayed and prayed and asked God for justice.
I appreciate this story is not the same, but there are similarities — maybe you need to ask God how he wants to defend you? Another thought is around the motivation of the female staff member and her accusations against you. After the inappropriate behaviours of your staff member and the GM at the Christmas party, I imagine you spoke to the female staff member because she was part of your team?
I am wondering who or if you organised someone to speak to the GM about his behaviour? If not, this seems an obvious point of power imbalance or oversight that could offend? If it was only the female approached around the behaviour at the party, I can see this might be enough for her to react and strongly in defence. I think it would be worth asking her what she thought of your approach and whether you can take the sting or bitterness from her accusations?
He is able to create a wonderful testimony out of this! PH please reply with how it is going but rely on God. Here is my story. I went to teach at what I thought was a christian school but behind the scenes far from it! Very unethical and cruel behavior. It was getting very hard for me after a few years, you see, unethical types notice right away your heart and tendency to do what is right and will put you down. So I felt led to search elsewhere for the next school year. I applied at a school I had never really considered upon the advice of a coworker who was looking also for same reasons.
Well, long story short, there was an instance that I needed to report to headmaster. I had reported it in email but we were scheduled to meet. The day before this meeting I receive an unexpected offer to go to this school that next semester, not waiting until next year. I said I had not planned that and planned on finishing my year. But the next day the headmaster was so angry I would not hide the incident he really yelled at me to intimidate me into silence. So, while I am christian and think I should hold my word and finish the year, I did not just leave but asked for permission to go.
I loved my students and it is hard to leave because you are reporting unethical behavior, but God provided an unexpected out at just the right time and my angry headmaster agreed. Also, I had to take a bit of a pay cut, more than I would of liked. God had a respite place for me and for more than expected. Unfortunately my husband was transferred and I had to leave that wonderful ethical school and I find myself in a similar spot — not near as unethical but I am seeing signs that there is not the care I would expect for my students or leading them up as honest christians.
I have had to endure some bullying as there is a pervasive attitude that students cannot learn, when they fail it is their fault, and they should be punished with bad grades. I like to try new things to get them learning and for the most part it has worked — but the bitterness of others is overwhelming. So I have given my resignation to be in effect at the end of this school year. I am sad to leave students I love but it is taking a toll on my ability to serve my own family. I am now trusting God to provide for me what he needs me to do next year as I love to teach and hate to give it up.
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I am also, even more so, trusting God to give me a loving and serving heart toward my employer as in the next 4 months surely God wants me to represent Him well. Remember Jonah who had to go and preach and did not want to because of the sinfulness of Ninevah? Perhaps God has a mission for you where you are. I will also, trying to be the best employee and have a heart of service and love and not the bitterness I often feel. It is simple. Why questions are wanted so ask Him to give you wisdom and understanding about your situation.
Trust is no big mystery. Faith is the complete confidence in someone or something; without any holding back. The choice is yours to believe He has your best interests at His heart or not. I hope you find peace. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. Hei Jimmie, Good for you. I am in similar situation, the difference is i already quit my job and decided to go back to school for theology. Living it up in prayer that i can pass the entrance test as well.
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Thank you for writing this article. I moved to New York City about 8 months ago. A year ago, I dropped out of school. Deep down I knew I was meant for more than to be in a town where everyone and their parents did the same thing. On top of that I worked in a factory. For months, I had clues and signs that helped me along to make that decision. The first attempt to move in the end of December, everyone told me to wait.
So I did for a season. I made the decision to move on the first day of Spring, a new season. Everyone in my old town would tell me they believed I needed to wait longer, to save more money, to be more seasoned, whatever it was. As far as moving, accomplishing anything, I was depressed and I believed it was only going to get worse. Please, let me know your thoughts. I want to put this out there because maybe someone else in my situation could receive help from this. Love this article. After becoming a mom I have been in a constant fight with this question.
I have a lot of fears from my own childhood that make me be kind of a helicopter Mon with my almost 4 year old. I have a huge stranger danger fear.
It took me many month of sleepless nights before I could conformably leave my toddler at Sunday school. Now after almost 2 years I feel comfortable at church and with the many volunteers at Church. This aggressiveness required the church to call child protective services. Which this situation just validated my original fears of leaving my child in a Sunday school class. Now that this individual I thought I could trust has been asked to go on leave for a while is about to return.
I am fearful of my child being alone in the church while they are there because I have a fear this parent may take their frustration out on my child and they are in a position in the church where they have access to her… Which brings me back to am I suppose to trust God that all will be OK and I am just being over protective… Or so I use logic and just make sure I am always with my child and be in her Sunday school class at one of her teachers like I am for awana… And if so this means that our family will loose out on our daughter being independent in the church and my and my husband being able to grow more with our church and join a couples Sunday school class.
I would say God was right there protecting you both. So why not trust our Father who has all the control?
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It appears to me He already is protecting you. Next I would disagree with you being stupid for allowing this person around your daughter. How are you to know? But what you might do is ask the church to background check child care people and that adults must be in pairs at all times when caring for children.
And to put security cameras in the areas where children are cared for. My church has done all of the above even tho there has never been an incident. Its about prevention so there is no future hurting of any kind. If the church continues with this plan, then yes it may be time to move on to another church.
In my mother had the wonderful idea to teach me about good touches and bad touches. And if they do, I want you to tell me right away. That instruction saved me from my father molesting me. If you do something like this, be careful not to project your fears onto you daughter. My mother grew up in a home that was a horror and she never, ever projected that onto me. She let me have my innocence of childhood.
Forgive them. Forgiveness is not about them its about you. But forgiveness does free you from the sin of unforgiveness because He calls us to forgive the way Jesus did who forgave everyone, including those that nailed Him to the Cross. Forgiveness does not mean you go tell that person, nor do you ever have to bring that person back into your life.
In fact, some people, based on their behavior, should and need to be kept out of our lives. Forgiveness is about living like Christ which is what we are called to do. I hope this helps. You are the daughter of The King. Walk in confidence and believe He has your back. Psalm The rod was a weapon a shepherd used to beat off the wolves and the staff is the hook the shepherd used to pull the sheep from danger. Loret, thank you very much for your response. It is extremely helpful and gives me a lil more perspective on where to go from here.
This is how I am feeling. I have always known what I wanted to do in life. Since I was a child, all the way up to graduating and starting college, I knew I wanted to become a veterinarian. I developed cat and dog allergies in high school, plus the local college I was going to did not offer veterinary medicine. I changed my major to something others thought I should do, and eventually flunked out of college due to a loss of motivation.
I have considered and dreamed about lots of other jobs I would like too, but it always seems to come down to working with animals in some capacity. I was one tiny turned-in-application away from beginning a volunteer position at a local wildlife refuge last year, but froze in fear and did nothing. I talk myself out of what I think my dream is because of this and the allergies and other factors, so I am feeling really lost and confused.
Should I just let it go and sacrifice my will for His, and look for something else? Is there anyone who can give me some advice or pointers? I had a messed up childhood that gave a pretty messed up adulthood through my 30s and was so dysfunctional I could not do much. I too should have become a vet.
Now its too late, I have health issues that would not let me work as a vet never mind do 80 hrs a week of school. I stand on Romans You sound like you are young enough to still follow your dream. Maybe the best thing you can do right now is get into the Word and deepen your knowledge of Him.
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I suggest you put Him first, put your focus completely on Him. I will bet you will find out what He wants you to do. What ever it will be, dream or something else, it will be exactly the right thing to do. One more thing. Come back someday and tells what happens with you. Thank you so much, Loret, for your words and for taking the time to tell me your message. I will take your advice. I probably do consume more of my time worrying about this Vs focusing on Him. And I certainly am grateful for what He has given me.
Thank you again for your encouragement and response. Take an allergy pill, go see a acupuncture person who deals with allergies Go large animals horses cows they need a vet too. Go for your dream!!!! Thanks, K! I appreciate your encouragement! I just feel I want to encourage you with something that releases me.
And that completely freed me. I pray it does the same for you. I would say send that application in for the wildlife refuge. You have nothing to lose. God is in it. He is way too good and way too kind to be overwhelmed by your fears and anxieties. He doesnt fall off His throne. There is provision for this moment, take it. Kirsty, I want to thank you for your words! This was very encouraging and good stuff. Fear of making mistakes is something I struggle with constantly. Thank you for this great reminder! And thank you again for taking the time and leaving me with your words.
Please find every way possible to go for it. That is not a good way to live. Is that a good place to be long term? So, please, just prayerfully take the plunge. I used to think that I wanted to be a medical doctor. I tried applying for the courses but they were extremely expensive. One day, I was on the ward, with the doctors and the consultant, I was standing there as the physiotherapist. Because I knew, if I were to study Medicine, I would have to work my way up to the top, which means being a Consultant.
Yet the Consultant barely spends time with the patients. His junior doctors are the ones who do most of the patient assessments and then they feedback. The consultant gets to examine mainly the complex cases. I realised that as the physiotherapist, I got to spend good chunks of time with my patients… not just 2minutes here, or 5minutes there. My job allowed me spend time with my patients, hearing about their fears, their worries, their hopes, their past, they would sometimes tell me they have pain or feel dizzy on walking, things they at times would not tell the doctors, because they did want to bother them.
It turns out that they needed to first build rapport and as the physiotherapist, while attempting to get them to walk 10metres and they needed to sit down for a rest after 2, 3, 5, metres, they got to feel that I was not rushing them, that I was not judging them for their inabilities, that I was their greatest cheer leader instead.
Then they would open up and talk. Three hours later, an all-night cab returned me to her in one piece, shaken but not stirred. The crunching sound that you hear when another car runs into you is really quite overwhelming. I was just as surprised—albeit in the opposite way—when, some forty-odd years ago, I found myself in the middle of a bank robbery in the course of which pistol fire was exchanged at close range. I learned that day that when a revolver goes off indoors, it sounds just like a child popping a blown-up paper bag.
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