The twin principles of repentance and forgiveness exceed in strength the awesome power of the adversary.
I do not exempt abortion. The formula is stated in forty words:. With this in mind, I once wrote to a woman with whom I had had previous occasion to discuss at length her family problems. I had given counsel in my desire to prevent further misunderstandings and avoid a separation or divorce. After some weeks, she wrote that she would accept my decision. I responded in part as follows:. You have your free agency. If you are determined to get a divorce it is your responsibility and your suffering if you are not willing to make adjustments. When I talked with you, I understood that you had forgiven each other and would start from there to build a beautiful life.
Apparently, I was mistaken. All my warnings and pleadings seem to have fallen on deaf ears. I want you to know that I do not justify in your husband anything that was wrong, but I recognized all the way through that his was not the whole fault. I have never been able to feel that you had wholly purged the selfishness from your own soul. I do know that two people as seemingly intelligent and apparently mature as you two, could have a gloriously happy life, if both of you would begin to let your concerns run in favor of the other, instead of in favor of your selfish selves.
If two people, selfish and self-centered, and without the spirit of forgiveness, escape from each other, they cannot escape from themselves. Occasionally we may stumble. I thank the Lord for the great principle of repentance and forgiveness. When we drop the ball, when we make a mistake, there is held out to us the word of the Lord that he will forgive our sins and remember them no more against us.
The ego interferes with husbands and wives asking each other for forgiveness. It prevents the enjoyment of the full sweetness of a higher love. The ego often prevents parents and children from fully understanding each other. The ego enlarges our feelings of self-importance and worth. It blinds us to reality. We need to make the marriage relationship sacred, to sacrifice and work to maintain the warmth and respect which we enjoyed during courtship. God intended marriage to be eternal, sealed by the power of the priesthood, to last beyond the grave.
Differences should be worked out in love and kindness and with a spirit of mutual reconciliation. A man should always speak to his wife lovingly and kindly, treating her with the utmost respect. When children come into that home, they are nurtured and cared for, loved and blessed with the feeling that their father loves their mother. In that environment they find peace and strength and security. Watching their father, they develop respect for women.
But with patience, mutual respect, and a spirit of forbearance, we can weather these storms. Where mistakes have been made, there can be apology, repentance, and forgiveness. The most perfect music is a welding of two voices into one spiritual solo. Marriage is the way provided by God for the fulfillment of the greatest of human needs, based upon mutual respect, maturity, selflessness, decency, commitment, and honesty.
I know of no more certain way to keep it on a lofty and inspiring plane than for a man occasionally to reflect upon the fact that the helpmeet who stands at his side is a daughter of God, engaged with Him in the great creative process of bringing to pass His eternal purposes. I know of no more effective way for a woman to keep ever radiant the love for her husband than for her to look for and emphasize the godly qualities that are a part of every son of our Father and that can be evoked when there is respect and admiration and encouragement.
When a woman understands that a man has the seeds of divinity within him, she honors him not only for who he is but for what he may become. An understanding of the divine nature allows each person to have respect for the other. Mercy, charity, commiseration, empathy, pity, sympathy, clemency, grace, leniency. Harshness, cruelty, unkindness, abruptness, ruthlessness, enmity, animosity, bitterness, hatred, hostility, rancor, abuse. Possible definitions: Qal to spare, pity, have compassion on. Example: Exodus Possible definitions: to love, love deeply, have mercy, be compassionate, have tender affection, have compassion.
Example: Deuteronomy Example: Matthew ; Mark Possible definitions: to have mercy on, to help one afflicted or seeking aid, to bring help to the wretched. Example: Mark Possible definitions: to be affected moderately or in due measure; to preserve moderation in the passions, especially anger or grief; hence of one who is not unduly disturbed by the errors, faults, sins of others, but bears them gently.
Example: Hebrews Possible definitions: a to be affected with the same feeling as another, to sympathize with b to feel for, have compassion on. Example: Hebrews see Greek and Hebrew lexicons. It cannot be legislated. It must come from the heart.
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It must be stirred up from within. It is part of the endowment each of us receives as a son or daughter of God and partaker of a divine birthright. I plead for an effort among all of us to give greater expression and wider latitude to this instinct which lies within us. The degree to which each of us is able to extend it becomes an expression of the reality of our discipleship under Him who is our Lord and Master.
His sacrifice on the cross was an unparalleled act of mercy in behalf of all humanity. Most often it is quiet and unassuming. It receives few headlines. It is the antithesis of vengeance and hatred, of greed and offensive egotism. I speak of the homes of the people. As children grow through the years, their lives, in large measure, become an extension and a reflection of family teaching.
If there is harshness, abuse, uncontrolled anger, disloyalty, the fruits will be certain and discernible, and in all likelihood they will be repeated in the generation that follows. If, on the other hand, there is forbearance, forgiveness, respect, consideration, kindness, mercy, and compassion, the fruits again will be discernible, and they will be eternally rewarding.
They will be positive and sweet and wonderful. And as mercy is given and taught by parents, it will be repeated in the lives and actions of the next generation. We too can bless if we will but follow His noble example.
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Opportunities are everywhere. Needed are eyes to see the pitiable plight and ears to hear the silent pleadings of a broken heart. Now, I, the Lord am not well pleased with the inhabitants of Zion, for there are idlers among them. It is the process by which dreams become realities. It is the process by which idle visions become dynamic achievements. We would rather play than work. A little play and a little loafing are good.
Apply the 1 Corinthians 13 in your relationship. If you want a guide of how love should be, then read 1 Corinthians To give you a glimpse, this passage says that love is patient, kind, and not self-seeking. You can use these verses as a checklist to see if true love exists in your relationship. Look for the counsel of spiritually-mature individuals. Whenever your relationship is on the rocks, seek advice from God-fearing people. Wait until marriage. I am not being a hypocrite, old-fashioned, or judgmental here—trust me I know what I am talking about.
Get married. If you want to start your own family, then start right by getting married. Again, this hinders blessings into your relationship—or family.
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If money is the problem, then please know that a wedding does not have to be expensive. It is still honored by God since the authorized personnel to conduct the ceremony has His anointing Romans Serve God together. As an individual, God has given you each spiritual gifts and a specific calling. Support each other to pursue your call and use your God-given talents to glorify Him. Make it a relationship goal to help others. The best way to serve God is by serving others. Your relationship would be stronger if it has a purpose. Find out how you, as a couple, can bless others who are in need—like supporting a charity or donating school supplies to kids.
Even though small things, you can already create a difference in the society, especially when you inspire other couples to do the same. Treat each other with grace—just like how Jesus treats you. Putting God at the center of your relationship does not make you, your partner, or your relationship perfect. However, it teaches you how to treat imperfections with grace—which means not giving up on the relationship easily just because of challenges.
If you are hurt, forgive just like how God forgives you and be willing to give second chances. Acknowledging God in your relationship does not guarantee a smooth and easy journey as a couple. However, it makes you stronger in trials and more patient with each other. It will also help you be wiser and braver in taking steps to the future together.
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